Good morning! And yes it's still daylight in the swamp.
I have a lot on my mind today, see if I can remember some of it. It is hard to explain how people just do not get the seriousness and complexity of concussions. Have you seen the latest on Sidney Crosby floating around (brokeback mtn.).People need to learn to back off!
Now I am not a big hockey fan nor a Sidney supporter. But, he is definitely not the same person/player he was before his injury!!! Just like I am not the same person I was before my injury. Watch Crosby's style of play! So far in the play off.'s, he appears to be more aggressive (to the point of wanting to hurt the other players). He does not display the same sportsmanship and control he had before! Definitely, not a role model. Not like he used to be for my grandson's. Somewhere inside him there is the old Sidney, that his friends, family,and fans have to give him space and time to find. This will not be an easy journey for him.
This is the same type of frustrations I have come across every day, in my day to day dealings with family and friends. It creates levels of anxiety and frustration. Which leads to increased levels of stress and tension, and higher levels of headaches!! Which really sucks! Another reason for "BUILDING THE SIMPLE LIFE". Susan was telling me she had read an article in the Star Phoenix paper that Ken Dryden was going to be in Saskatoon talking about concussions and how it can take up to"FIVE" years to adjust! Talk about a change in lifestyle.
Concussions are serious! And as a society we should take them very serious. look at the ramification in sports injuries, work injuries(myself included). I think we have been very good at the talk, but maybe it's time to do the walk! What's that saying? walk a mile in my shoes......... Now that I have been there. It's not much fun. So for those who think I now have it made. I have these word's of wisdom, it's great that the wife went to work this morning at 5:30am, I have screaming Jet's in my ears all day long. My pills only lessen my headaches for perhaps six to seven hours, if I am lucky. I have trouble concentrating on reading simple directions.(I have been at this for about 5 hours). Most times I end up waiting for Susan or someone else to help me figure out what I am doing! So the next time you talk to someone who has had a concussion, do not assume you know what they are going through, until you live with them or walk a mile in their shoes.
I know this is something I am truly trying to learn, easier said than done. Another problem the explosive temper that one did not have before. It was always easy to walk away rather than face an argument, but sometimes the headaches are so bad you do not remember what you are saying or what you are doing. So I have quickly learned to just get up and leave. I hope this has not offended to many of my friends. This has been hardest on my wife. She has made great adjustments for me! I hope I have learned how to listen when she has said"it's time to go". I am very lucky my three children and their spouses have kept in close contact and have a good understanding of what Susan and I are going through. So it's still one day at a time, sometimes one minute at a time but we will get through this with God's help! Look's like our snow has ended, waiting for Susan to return home from work, more medication and off to my son and daughter in law's for supper, WOW! I don't have to cook!
I've seen the difficulties you face and I'm so proud of how you are handling them! Despite the limitations you face, you are learning how to build the simple life and I know the boys appreciate and love being able to see Bumpa more often now. <3
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